BRAVING SELF TRUST

Brene’ Brown, PhD. is not an unknown name in the world of psychology, social work, or self-help. In her book, Rising Strong, she begins to break down the larger concept of TRUST.

Have you ever thought: do I trust myself? what is trust in self? how do I cultivate self-trust? I don’t trust myself.

If so, I encourage you to look deeper into these elements of trust and how they may be impacting your ability to trust yourself, your body, and others.

Boundaries: You respect my boundaries, and when you’re not clear about what’s okay and not okay, yo ask. You’re willing to say no and you ask for what you need. Ask yourself: Did I respect my own boundaries? Was I clear about what’s okay and what’s not okay? 

Reliability: You say what you’re going to do. This means staying aware of your competencies and limitations so you don’t over promise and are able to deliver on commitments and balance competing priorities. Ask yourself: Was I reliable? Can I count on myself to do what I committed to doing? 

Accountability: You own your mistakes, apologize, and make amends. You don’t blame others for your mistakes and when you need to hold others accountable you do honestly and with respect. Ask yourself: Did I hold myself accountable? Did I blame others? Did I hold others accountable with honest and respect? 

Vault: You don’t share information or experiences that are not yours to share. I need to know that my confidences are kept, and that you’re not sharing with me any information about other people that should be confidential. Ask yourself: Did I respect my own vault and share appropriately? 

Integrity: You choose courage over comfort. You choose what is right over what is fun, fast, or easy. You choose to practice your values rather than simply professing them. Ask yourself: Was I in my own integrity? Did I choose courage over comfort? Did I choose what’s right over what’s fun, fast, and easy? Did I practice my values? 

Non-Judgement: I can ask for what I need, and you can ask for what you need. We can talk about how we feel without judgement. Ask yourself Was I nonjudgmental about needing help? 

Generosity: You extend the most generous interpretation possible to the intentions, words, and actions of yourself and others. Ask yourself: Was I generous toward myself? 

If you identify an area or two where you could grow, set a goal this week on how to be more aligned with yourself: promoting self-leadership, and self-trust in your life. If additional support navigating these elements within yourself and your relationships would benefit your quality of life, then don’t hesitate to reach out.